I called that bath mat my “magic carpet.” Nowadays, I suffer from moderate to severe anxiety and depression. I used to fall asleep on a bath mat because I wanted to be near the toilet if I had to throw up in the middle of the night. When I was 10 years old, I had an eating disorder. You haven’t done the bare minimum to support your daughter in a society that is mentally and physically dangerous for girls and women. It leads to mental health issues, eating disorders, abusive relationships, self harm, substance abuse, and death. We are constantly inundated with messages and images that we are not enough, worthless. It’s an uphill battle at every single turn. This is the world we - girls and women - live in.
SONONYM FOR POORLY HOW TO
You’re daughter is obsessed with not being “fat” at nine years old, refusing food, and crying at the idea of eating.ĭid you even bother to read about how to maintain the confidence and mental health of young girls when your daughter was born? Also, you clearly didn’t do any research on how to transition to healthier eating without encouraging shame, guilt and self-hatred in young girls. This is how I know: you didn’t consult a pediatrician about limiting calories and drastically upping her exercise. You only care about how she is perceived by others. I don’t think you actually give a damn about her health. She is NINE YEARS OLD and there is nothing wrong with her growing body. You shouldn’t be anywhere near your daughter until you resolve whatever the fuck is wrong with you in private therapy sessions. Now ex is telling me she won't send her back to me if I don't stop 'emotionally damaging' her. I said that at least I cared about what the girl puts in her mouth and she said M was happier before I moved back. I said if she was healthy she wouldn't have a belly and be bigger than other girls. She blames me for giving M a complex when she was healthy and active. I hadn't because it was my weeks and why should I divulge all our plans.Įx ranted saying M always came home tired and refusing to eat. M was crying saying that she was scared if she ate anything bad she'd put on weight and everyone would hate her. The parents called ex and she came and got her. Then at their house after they ordered pizza for the kids M refused to eat saying she was gonna get fat. She said she had to eat the veggies so she could lose weight, and she wasn't allowed any popcorn (I never said this). M told the other kids that they were gonna get fat and unhealthy bc their parents gave them those snacks.
SONONYM FOR POORLY MOVIE
Apparently when they were sat at waiting for the movie kids started comparing snacks. I head over and ex isnt happy, M is upset and won't look at me. I dropped her off and ex was gonna pick her up. She made a little fuss about not getting candy but seemed fine. I'm trying to show my kid that snacks can be healthy, so I sent her with a bag of veggie sticks and hummus. The parents asked that everyone send their kid with their own snack and then the parents would buy popcorn on top to share. So last week a kid is having a birthday and the parents are taking a small group to the movies and after to sleepover. The only thing I said to M about it is that we were working to set her up for the future being physically fit and mindful of what she eats.
I also took her to the gym with me 4 times a week, my gym have parent and child classes. (Carrot sticks, yogurt, flavoured steamed chicken breast etc.) M complained at first but then seemed fine with this. I did not put her on a crash diet but I did start using a portion control plate and packing lean lunches instead of letting her buy her food.
I know weight gets harder to lose the older you get so I decided to keep a close eye and do what I could on her weeks with me. I asked about portion sizes and other exercise (twice a week for 90mins isn't that much) I was trying to stay friendly but ex shut me down. I spoke to ex and she got defensive, saying that M ate what she eats (ex is skinny and healthy) and has a sport she goes to twice a week. She's not obese but seeing her in person, I've noticed she has a belly which hangs over her waistband, and she wears 12-13 clothes despite being only 9. I had noticed M starting to put on weight. We broke up when M was 5 and I moved away, I would see M in breaks and speak on the phone so I was as involved as I could be. Ex (32f) and I (34m) have a 9yo daughter 'M'.
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